Friends at work

I meet with a lot of unsatisfied people on a daily basis. For whatever reason, things just either haven’t worked out or aren’t currently clicking. This sense of unfulfillment or dissatisfaction boils down to a number of reasons, but from a broad sense, it comes down to us either being too bored or too anxious. We are either so stressed out because of XYZ that we just can’t take it anymore, or we are so bored that we realize we aren’t making the type of ‘impact’ we were meant to make. Which leads me to believe that real enjoyment happens somewhere in-between.

So many of us are spending much of our time and energy in an attempt to make our current situation better by looking elsewhere. And yes, I know that some situations are the exceptions. But beware of the exceptions that become the norms. There’s always something to nitpick. There are inexperienced managers everywhere. Things just run inefficiently, sometimes. Markets shift. People change. But what about you? What if this time, instead of running away, you doubled down your efforts? Instead of looking for a new job, you gave it your all for the next 90 days? Instead of looking for ways this job serves you, you decided to give back and help others?

Watch what happens. If nothing else, you become a better employee and friend at work. But there’s also an interesting paradox that happens when we double down our efforts—lean into the problem, if you will. Those other results we were so desperately in search of (recognition, opportunities, results) seem to naturally happen as a byproduct.

Having a bad week? Take it in stride. You know some weeks are going to be harder than others. Call it what it is, but keep the bigger (more positive) picture in mind. At the end of the quarter, near the completion of a project, there will be saltiness, and people will make snippy remarks. Don’t evaluate the whole thing based on one bad day, bad week, or even bad month. Trust that your rededication and improved efforts will yield better results.