The unspoken consequence of change

There is something we don’t really talk about when it comes to transformation. And it’s how it influences our relationships. 

When we experience a change, we begin a new journey and, sometimes, make a new identity for ourselves. When that happens we make a new circle of friends, increase our network of influence in other areas and industries. But what also happens is our old circles want things to be the same. There is a resistance there. It’s tempting to go back to the way things were. The temptation gets stronger when previous relationships get weaker.

But you know why you changed. You know it’s for the best. You can never go back. And if there are still toxic relationships in your life, it might be time to move on. Sounds harsh, but, if you are an average of the five people with whom you spend the most time, then find the five people you want to be most like and spend more time with them and less time with people who make you doubt and bring you down.