On choosing yourself


It's not selfish to choose yourself. It just shows you care. You care about the thing that will have the most impact on those around you and the work you do—you. 

Some people wait their entire lives for someone to choose them. They want permission to go apply there, start this, quit that. They are waiting for something to happen, for someone to say yes, for someone to validate their decision, for the stars to align. 

But what if the timing's not right? What if they don't like you? What if you don't have the resources right now? What if you're pursuing something that's not going to happen because you've been manipulated into believing that they'll choose you next? 

Choosing yourself doesn't make you impatient, either. It means coming to terms with reality. Choosing yourself means saying yes to the things that make you proud. Choosing yourself means saying no to the things that distract you from doing work that really matters. 

Choosing yourself is a privilege. It gives you the power to control how you react to the things you can't. It's the ultimate superpower. 

Here's the other thing about choosing yourself, it also means choosing those who choose you. Surround yourself with people who make you better, who inspire greatness. Go to where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated.