It? Or the idea of it? 


Do you love that person? Or are you in love with the idea of marriage?

Do you really want that career? Or are you in love with the idea having that career? 

Do you love it there? Or are you in love with the idea of being there? 

It's okay for the answer to be "both." But just make sure it's not exclusively the latter. 

We make things way more glamorous than they really are. Over the past few years, I have wondered what it would be like to be a travel blogger. Imagine, traveling the world, writing about my experiences, seeing breathtaking sights, meeting unforgettable people, what a life! But then I think about how much time I would have to spend in airports and train stations and miss out on building real relationships.

Here's the thing, every job is hard. Sales is hard. Construction is hard. Writing is hard. Design is hard. Working at Starbucks is hard. Working at Apple is hard. The key is to find something that works for you. And it's okay if it takes some time because it's worth the investment. 

Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed.

The fact is most putts don’t drop. Most beef is tough. Most children grow up to be just people. Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration. Most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. …

Life is like an old-time rail journey—delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders, and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed.

The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride

This is one of my all-time favorite quotes. It's the perfect mix of "real talk" and "optimism." We all have to get used to a certain level of discomfort—no matter what we do, where we live, or how we choose to spend our time. So we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. And at some point we need to realize that everything we've been looking for might be right in front of us.